Getting To Know Family

I am sad to say that up until recently, my children didn't know their cousins.  Which is a shame considering that the town we live in is right next to the town they live in.  It was just that my sister and I live seperate lives, and we don't even see each other that often. 

But my kids are now getting to know their cousins.  With summer vacation going on, my nephews were getting bored at home.  So I have went and picked them up a few times so far.  They come out here and go swimming with my kids, and they all jump on the trampoline together.  On Monday, they all even went blackberry picking together in the back field. 

I am so glad that the kids are getting a chance to get to know each other.  And I am glad they are getting along together.  It is so nice to see them all doing something together. 

Changes

Sometimes life likes to throw things your way and they are hard to deal with.  I had something thrown at me me earlier in the month that has changed my life in a big way.  I don't really want to talk about it right now, because I am still not exactly sure what I am going to do.  But things are a little difficult in my life right now.  My children are having a hard time with things that are going on and happening.  They think the things that are happening are their fault.  I keep explaining to them that they had nothing to do with any of it, that none of it is their fault, that they have done nothing wrong.  The kids are also acting up during this time.  I am trying to be patient with them.  I know they are just kids and don't really understand what all is going on.  And being kids, the way they handle some hard situations is to act out.  It does get annoying, but they are doing okay 

WTH

R is 10 now.  He spends every Saturday with the Young Marines.  Some of these days are long (8 hours), some are shorter (2 to 4 hrs).  It just depends on what they are doing.  A couple weeks ago, the Young Marines did a campout from Friday night til Sunday morning.  There are always adults present at the Young Marine things, whether they are Young Marine staff or parent volunteers.  The kids aren't left unsupervised at all. 

Other than the Young Marine activities, R is home most of the time.  He is either with me, my husband, or one of my parents.  Last night he did spend the night with a friend, then called today to ask if he could spend the night again.  The friend's mother told me it was okay with her, so I said it was okay with me.  I have met this friend's parents (both mother & father).  I know where they live, I know where they work.  My family knows this family...heck, our families have known each other for YEARS!  So it's not like I'm leaving my child for a couple days with people I don't know.

But I had someone tell me today I am a bad parent for sending R "away" all of the time!  That I should be with him ALL of the time.  That I apparently don't want to spend any time with him.  WTH!  He goes somewhere without me once, maybe twice, a week!  And he is 10 years old for crying out loud.  He needs some independence.  He needs to go out and do things without me, with kids his age.  And it's not like I am dropping him off somewhere alone, like the mall or park or whatever.  When he is at the Young Marines (an organization designed for kids to keep them off the streets and off drugs), there are adults present.  He is at a friend's house right now, with adults present.  He doesn't want, or need, me up his butt 24 hours a day, 7 days a week.  He can't learn to be independent if he doesn't get some independence.  And I spend plenty of time with him the other 5-6 days a week that he is home...we go fishing together, play games together, play in the pool together, read together, etc. 

So if I am a bad parent because I let my son go somewhere without me once or twice a week, then I proudly wear that title. 

Not Too Young

When my son or I tell anyone he is now in the Young Marines, I always get, "Isn't he too young for that?"  The answer is no.  The Young Marines is for children ages 8 - 18.  I have also gotten, "Why are you trying to turn him into a soldier so young?"  The Young Marine program doesn't try to turn children into soldiers.  One thing the Young Marines DO do is promote physical and mental developments of it's members, along with morals and a drug-free lifestyle.  They also teach the ideals of honesty, fairness, courage, respect, loyalty, love of God, and fidelity to our country.  And let's face it, kids now days need this because too many parents out there aren't teaching these things.  The Young Marines also try to get the kids interested in and have a respect for their own academic achievement, along with the history and traditions of the U.S.A.  They learn teamwork and leadersip.  They learn about community service, and see how good it feels to do things for others. 

So why wouldn't I get my child involved in something like this.  Yes, I can teach and do all this stuff with him at home, but he is getting older.  He wants to go out and do things with kids around his own age without his mom (thought that wouldn't come around to at least the teenage years, lol). 

As a side note, R DOES want to be in the military when he grows up.  It has nothing to do with the Young Marines.  It is something he decided when he was 4 years old, and he hasn't changed his mind since.  He has a love for this country, and yes, I do encourage it.  And yes, I am proud that he wants to join the military when he is old enough, and will be even prouder when he does.   

Going Shopping

I have my list all ready, and later today I will be going to buy foods from my okay to eat list for the "Blood Type Diet."  I will start this diet tomorrow.  I won't be cutting all my avoid foods out all at once, but will instead start to slowly eliminate them. 

Blood Type Diet

I have been reading "Eat Right 4 Your Type" by Peter J. D'Adamo.  It is basically a diet with a list of foods that are right and wrong for your blood type.  It is more of a diet to optimize your health, but weight loss is one of the affects of it.  Since I have been eating not so healthy lately, and have packed on some weight, I am going to give them Blood Type Diet a try.

I know this will be hard for me.  On the list of things to avoid for my blood type are red meats, pork, and most dairy (I can still eat poultry though).  Since these are some of my favorite things, I know this will be hard.  But if it helps with my health, then it will be worth it.  Even if I don't lose any weight, eating better will still be beneficial to my health.  Since I am going to have to give up some of the things I love to eat, I am going to start this in baby-steps.  Since I already have poultry once or twice a week, I am going to start cutting red meat/pork out once a week until it is completely out.  I am also going to start to phase dairy out (and slowly go from regular milk to soy milk).  I will try to keep an update on my progress and how I am feeling as I start this process

My Oldest

In one week from Saturday, my baby boy (who isn't really a baby anymore) will be graduating from Recruit Training for the Young Marines. I am so proud of him for doing this. After the first day he told me, "You would have thought they would have went easy on us since it was the first day." Even after saying that, he said he was ready for the next weekend to come to go back. And every Saturday he has woke me up at the crack of dawn telling me to get up so we won't be late, lol. I can't wait to see him in his camoflauge uniform for the first time.

To learn more about the Young Marines and see if it is something your child might like to be involved in, you can go to http://www.youngmarines.com/.